1 DEEP BREATH 2 LET IT GO 3 FORGET 4 FORGIVE 5 GET ON WITH YOUR LIFE =]
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nyViaSJdW...
Pray every time you feel the onset...ask God for help...he s there for you
remain calm
get a punch bag and every time you feel angry beat the crap out of it
smoke weed
You need to understand that people have the ability to be upset just as much as you do. THINK - why are they disrespecting me? Did I do anything? People do not just randomly disrespect others because it s fun. Someone or something might have happened to cause them to react so. Take deep breaths, count to ten in your head if it s really bad, and put yourself in their shoes. You will realise they have a reason for making you angry. and DONT think but it doesn t change the fact that i m still angry! that is just being lazy. Control yourself and you will be treated better. If someone bothers you, tell them what they are doing that is bothering you, maybe they have a good reason for their actions. Communication is the key. Many of these things are simply misunderstandings. It is only when they do NOT have a good reason for annoying you (try not to be biased when deciding this), then you CAN be angry at them.
I may be going on a whim here, but it seems you are desperate to not only be liked, but to like all others. I got news for you trying to please everybody is a one way ticked to insanity. It seems you try so hard and when someone pushes back you don t understand and then snap(quot;why are these people being like this when I m so nicequot;). In the work place I have found respect to be a far better tool than being liked. You wont change overnight but with time and maturity I m sure things will work out.
Actually from your note I found that you are really nice girl. You know about anger management. even though you are not able to. right? your main reason for anger is you think others are pressing your buttons. It means your remote is in others hand. I want to tell you you one thing if we are in anger it means 100% we are responsible for that dont blame others. I would request you to do following things. 1. Always keep a smile on your face even you are going to say hello on your phone smile before other side person will feel it in your voice. ( dont think it rubbish, please do it for five days) 2. Do one good task which makes a person happy. 3. Go to church in a week atleast (go daily if possible.) All these thing will let your mind cool. try atleast once.
A selection of treatments follow: If you can t deal with it by using one of the techniques, such as counting backwards from 20, to 1, (and prevent you from allowing yourself to become angry, in the first place) is important to express that anger appropriately, at the time, and to the person who caused it, if possible, or immediately afterwards. If not, maybe by walking away later, and bellowing your rage and/or frustration. In some situations, such as work, or school, it might be better to cover your mouth with a cupped hand, bandanna/handkerchief, or use the crook of your elbow, to muffle the sound. Some people find that it helps to journal those thoughts, and emotions soon afterwards. Anger, which is repressed, rather than healthily expressed, tends to fester, and later may cause explosive fits of rage, or depression. Let yourself feel the burning energy of that anger, and visualise it, as vividly as possible, as a hot flame cleansing you. It can help to have someone you can talk to. For more physically inclined people, a punching bag, or hitting your pillow, can be an effective release mechanism: visualise, as vividly as you can, that you are striking back at the cause of that anger. quot;But next time, when you get mad, just remember this quote: Those who anger you, conquer you. It s basically saying that when you give someone the power to make you mad, or let it get to you, it s like they re controlling you. When I realized that, it made me mad, so I try to control my anger and not let people see it. You can still control your anger without being walked all over. You just have to draw a line.quot; Try saying to yourself, in your mind: quot;I am fire! I am ice!quot;. Repeat for as long as it takes for you to calm down sufficiently. Anger management is addressed in much more detail than can be included here, in section 4, at and practice daily, one of the relaxation methods in sections 11, 2, 2.c, or 2.i Most people find the progressive muscular relaxation simple, and it can be done in several minutes. Others prefer to repeat a word, like quot;easyquot; in their minds, or a short phrase, and focusing your attention on your breath is another technique. You will know from the ease of use, and effect, which suits you best. The EFT, in section 53, is worth trying, too. A variant of Eye Movement Desensitisation amp; Reprocessing therapy, which has been used successfully for those people suffering from anxiety: it is easily learned, quick to use, yet can be very effective, is on page N, of section 6, and I use it before the relaxation techniques, because I have found that it makes them quicker to employ, and more effective. These will enable you to emotionally centre yourself, when practiced regularly. Yoga, and/or T ai Chi can also help you become a calmer, more self controlled person, who is less influenced by the behaviour of others. Books: The Anger Workbook - a 13 step plan to help you. - Les Carter amp; Frank Minirth. - Minirth Meier Clinic Series, amp; Anger Management For Dummies. - W. Doyle. PhD. - Gentry, amp; Angry All The Time: An Emergency Guide to Anger Control by Ron Potter-Efron called Try your library, local bookstore, or for these.
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